Sangwon Park/ Teachers/ Wed 1-2

Good Teacher

 

We meet a lot of teachers in our life. And I also met many teachers. Some are good and some are bad. Now I will write about one teacher whom I really liked. He was ethics teacher in my high school. He was different with other teacher because he taught real ethic to us in an extraordinary way. For example, he didn't just tell us a written letters in ethic books. He usually said the real example in his experiences like presenting his marriage story mixing with some funny illustration when he wanted to teach real love. That kind of his lesson skill helped us enjoy ethics. As a result, I became to like ethics. I am glad that he was my ethics teacher. Thanks to him, I could study ethics more easily.

 

Taehun Kim/Teacher/Wed 1-2

I met a lot of teachers over my 12 years in school. Some were good, some were not. Thankfully, I met more good teachers than bad ones. However, there's one teacher who I really don't like, which I'll be sharing with you today. She was my 6th grade homeroom teacher. She didn't like me at all, always scolding me for petty reasons. For example, one day she asked me to solve a math problem on the board in front of the class. I came up and solved the question. But she picked on my way of writing the number '8'. I still remember what she said as if it was a few days ago. She said, "You're writing '8' in a strange way! Aren't I right, Class? Just look at him!" As it that wasn't enough, she made me write the number over and over again, and humiliated me in front of the class. I still don't understand why she did that to me. It was a very traumatic experience, and one of the reason my memory of 6th grade is bad.

 

Sungtae Kim/ Teachers/ Wed 1-2

Memorable Teachers

Good teachers have common qualities, they should have sufficient teaching technique and willingness for their students. But the most important quality a teacher must have is love for their students. Some may teach just as a job. However, teachers who are carved and remembered in students' mind are those who teach with love and consideration. They don't teach a subject or a lesson. They try to help their students know how to live a successful life. When I was a third grader in high school, an English teacher was home room teacher for my class. Though young and didn't worked long in academic field, she was skillful teacher who delivers her lesson adroitly. But the biggest reason why I respect her is not because of her teaching skill but because of the way she dealt with students. It was a hard time for students who are literally struggling for better university and some students show negative attitude to their teacher. Also, she was busy working to help students and prepare for the exam. Despite those busy schedule, she tried to talk about her life experience and give lessons about life that were useful for students in her class. She is a good example of a teacher who show love for students.

Minyong Han/Teacher/Wed 1-2

Best Ethics Teacher

  I met a lot of good teachers and bad teachers in my school days, but only one of them came into mind. I used to hate ethics, so I was very reluctant to learn the basic ideas of philosophers. At that time, philosophers felt distant to me, but my ethics teacher shortened the distance I felt. She introduced the philosophers in a more fun, accessible way with lots and lots of materials. I remember the story of Immanuel Kant. He went for a walk at the same exact time every day, so the villagers set time on their clocks when he walked by. It demonstrates the uprightness of the philosophy of Kant. Also, she taught much useful knowledge. For example, the pronoun 'I' in English is always used as a capitalized letter because people in the western world are self-centered and they think they are the most important as an individual. I had fun learning from her, and she was the best teacher for me.

Hayeon Jin/ Teacher (EQuIP)/ Wed.1-2

We meet a lot of teachers in our life. Some are good and some are bad. I would like to talk about one science teacher I really disliked. One day, we were learning about the glycolysis. Her explanation was too ambiguous that everyone got puzzled. She never clarified the unfamiliar scientific terms, so none of us could get what she was saying.

 I couldn't hold it anymore so I raised my hand and politely asked her to clarify what she was explaining about. "You have eyes. Refer to the textbook." said she, pointing at the textbook while frowning. My classmates and I were dumbfounded by her answer. No one could ask her a question anymore after hearing that answer. Even I am just a young student, she is not supposed to answer in that manner. Of course I wasn't able to learn anything from her. She was the worst teacher I had ever met.

 

Christina Woo/Teacher/Wed1-2

Bad teacher

I wanted to share with you about my favorite teacher, but I decided to share with you the opposite instead. I went to a local school in Hong Kong for my primary school years, and teachers were very strict. They seemed like they were from a different planet. I had one especially scary teacher in grade 3, called Miss Lau. She was my homeroom teacher who taught me Chinese and Arts & Craft. I hated her. One day during Arts & Craft class, she yelled at me in front of the class because I could not draw well. Yes, I am not crafty and I do not draw well, but the humiliation was so terrible that I still remember clearly what she said to me. She asked me in a loud tone of voice with a smirk on her face, "Wow. You call this a drawing? Did you draw it with your feet?" Ouch. And how dare she adds me on Facebook now? I will keep her waiting on my list forever.

Soyoung Woo/Chapter2 A2 draft/Wed 1-2;

2.Cause and effect. Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure? (Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)

 

Sometimes, We hear that our acquaintances are getting divorce of We ever seen news or articles reporting that someone suffers a divorce. I think a divorce is not far from us. So I thought about causes of divorces and I found causes.

 

First, If young couples get married, they have a high possibility of immaturity maybe. That they are still young and thy are accustomed to their parents will be a cause of divorce. So they will experience many conflicts each other. Eventually their marriages will end in divorce. I think that a marriage which is not prepared will bring a tragedy to husband and wife. a planned marriage is need surely for each other.

 

Second, I think that personalities and habits between husband and wife are very important factors in marriage. If a couple has very different personalities and habits, they will experience many conflicts certainly. For example, If a wife is a early bird and husband is late bird, the wife thinks that her husband is lazy. so she will criticizes him due to his life habit. But he is not wrong. It's just a life habit. Just they are different. so I think that It's very important to know each other.

 

Third, There is a possibility of unfaithfulness. If a wife loves a man other than her husband(vice versa), It's a cause of a divorce and I think that they have to divorce after enough conversations and enough considerations. I think that love is a premise of marriage. so it is not make sense a marriage without love due to their children or money or contract. so I think that it is very important to know How I love my partner. 

Minyong Han/Icebreaker/Thu 3-4

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Minyong Han/Chapter2 2nd draft/Wed 1-2

Who Love More Deeply - Men or Women?

I want to note that I cannot definitely conclude which gender loves more deeply; some men can love more deeply, but some other women can love even more deeply. Therefore, keep in mind that the examples I'm going to provide in order to draw a conclusion are not definite; they are comparative.

  Normally, it is believed that women develop a deeper connection than men because men were hunters and gatherers but women were doing chores and raising children in their caves in prehistoric ages. Women were supposed to rely on men to live then, thus women grew to have a stronger feelings towards men over time. However, critics can insist that times have changed, and that men can be reliant on women nowadays as statistics prove an increasing number of households where women work and men don't. I think it's also true. Today, women participate more actively in economic activities than they did a long time ago and some women provide for the whole families now. My point is that economic dependency can be a likely factor in which gender loves more deeply. As everything is complicated with gender gaps and feminism these days, it can be debatable as to who has a more profound connection when it comes to reliance. Still, I'm going to conclude that women tend to develop a deeper bond than men traditionally in this paragraph.

  And also, in my opinion, women are more emotional. Women fall in love more easily than men. The media depict women as more passionate about love, and women can get jealous more often than men. That's because they love more deeply. If they don't love their partners, they won't care. In contrast, I don't think men are that passionate about love. They are likely to look out. They spend a lot of their resources looking for their partners, and they are more willing to compromise their relationships in place of better ones for the sake of their offsprings. Women seek love more than anything in a relationship. On the other hand, men want results in a relationship. They want to get back what they give in a relationship. That's not technically love. To sum up, women are more inclined to be devoted to their partners and to seek love than men are.

  In conclusion, women dedicate themselves to their relationships more than men.

Eunseo Kim/ Chapter2 Part5 A2 Draft2 / Wed1-2

 

           Love can be defined by whatever it is. Individuals with different backgrounds understand love differently and how they express love is varied as well. The definition of love is never fully agreeable, for it has such a diverse spectrum; it can be a feeling of affection, respect or even sorrow and hatred. Among these diverse facets, sacrifice is one feature of love that I believe is most important and superior.

           Loving people sacrifice each other and fully devote themselves into their lover. As two people with different history, personality, preference and values come together, the painful process of adjustment starts. The two-or even more within friends-must give up what they have been holding on for their lifetime to lead on the relationship. The joy of loving and being loved is mostly overwhelming compared to the pain of sacrifice, but sometimes it takes more than that. One might have to abandon their ultimate values for his lover and encounter a conflict between love and himself. For instance, sacrifice can be spotted among families; more specifically in maternal and fraternal love. I was an unexpected child who was, making it worse, born 3 months in advance of the due date. My parents were unready for a child, so they had to hastefully give up a lot of their values. My mother had to resign from her job which she had been passionately devoted throughout her life, and my father had to quit smoking for the newly delivered baby. The list can go on forever, but they were willing to happily give up what has been making up a large portion of their lives. From their willingness, I learned that love comes with sacrifice and vice versa.

           Love is a process of adapting each other to the bond that leads on the relationship. Lovers may end up gaining or losing from the sacrifice, but it is an irrefutable truth that sacrifice is a prerequisite of love. All lovers, up to some extent, sacrifice each other solely for the love- to continue and develop it.

 

Jeeny Jung/ Chapter 2 Part 5 A2 2nd draft/ Wed 1-2

2. Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure?

 

Marriage is an event that should be celebrated, blessing the happiness of two loving people. But it also means that a whole new life has started. For example, unlike the old days one would have to discuss and agree with their spouse before making decisions even on minor things. I believe this is the part where the quote 'marriage is real' takes place. Even if they have known each other for a long time, a clash of opinion is inevitable. Whether they solve those issues will decide the future of their marriage. And in my opinion, the typical examples that are difficult to reach agreements are different values on housework and fantasies of marriage.

 

 To begin with, deciding roles in the house have caused many divorces. This may happen more often in nowadays since attitude towards gender have changed. Traditionally, it was considered natural for women to take full responsible for housework. However now in the modern society, distributing chores have become essential as the entry of women in the society has increased. Thus working couples should make balance in doing household chores. Nevertheless, despite the fact that the couples both work equally there are still some couples which women take more care of housework. Or there could be a case of a couple with a wife who wants to continue her career but a husband wanting her to be a housewife and vice versa. Household chores may seem like a minor issue, but it is one of the matters that they would face during their whole marriage life. Which makes tension grow between them, and eventually making it hard to continue their relationship.

 

 Secondly, unrealistic dreams on marriage could be the cause of divorces. Through various dramas, movies and books, marriage has appeared to be only full of passion and love due to many happy endings. Hence several couples tend to have fantasies and look forward to their marriage life. However, as they enter marriage they get to face the reality. It is natural for couples to encounter numerous difficulties which could include money problems, children issues and difference in values with their partner. But when people with excessive marriage goals argue with their partner over these issues, they only get to feel more distance from their romantic ideas about marriage. Also as the dreams of their marriage are bigger, it is hard to acknowledge the reality. So they may conclude that their marriage has failed rather than trying to overcome the obstacles and make it a better marriage themselves. Which makes these couples with no opportunities to solve or reach an agreement but to divorce.

 

 In conclusion, besides these reasons there could be numerous other causes. And at the same time, the divorce rate is increasing over every year. However divorce is, and should be no longer reflected in a negative image as it was in the past. Because if couples cannot solve or develop their bad situations, divorce could be a rather good choice than enduring the bad marriage. Therefore people should definitely not get married with a light heart, but they should not also exclude divorce as a solution because of prejudices.

Hyunseo Jung/chapter2 part 5-A-2/ Wed 1~2

4 Reasons people end in Divorce.

 

"And they lived a long and happy marriage". Most of the stories are ended like this. But it just exists in a fairy tale and the reality is different. According to the National statistical office, 24% of couples end in divorce unfortunately. Then why many people experience this failure. I think there are 4 main reasons; wrong fantasy, familarity, perception of reality and difference in personality.

First, many people have their own marriage fantasy. Most of people overheard about marriage through drama or movie. But usually these are too unrealistic to be realized. These kinds of media just describe the most ideal husband, wife and family. So many couple came to feel that their marriage is far from what they expected, get into the deep depression, and finally make a decision to end the marriage.

Next, people became too accustomed to their relationship so they could be exhausted on their everyday. Before marriage, couples usually met just once in a day, and they had more things to do than they used to do. But after marriage, many exciting activities might be all achieved so they could feel that their daily life is boring. Also many used to care their appearance, because they needed to attract partner. But after marriage, they could see every aspects of their parter so finally they may not regard their partner as a lover.

Third, some couples tend to realize the reality they will encounter. These days, it is really hard to buy their own house and car. But these are usually needed to live together and to keep their marriage. Also it costs a lot to buy food ingredients. Although they tried hard, they could realize that living together makes both of them unhappy. So they could decided to divorce for each other.

Finally, the most common reason people explain their failure is difference in personality. Two different people who have another lifestyle and experience came to live together, and that is a marriage. Actually, there are lots of fights and arguments between family who lived more than 20 years together. So it is unavoidable and natural to have a fight because of the different personality. And at the first, they could understand most of the differences with the power of love, but when same things happened again and again, they could not stand marriage anymore.

Two people meet and fall in love. Marriage is the most wonderful events in their whole life. Sometimes divorce could be the best answer if they experienced all these 4 situations, wrong fantasy, familarity, perception of reality and difference in personality. But there is a saying "Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love." So would it be better to believe and respect each other one more time rather than cutting the most precious relationship?

 

 

Sangwon Park/Chapter2 part5 draft2/wed1-2

Definition, Write your definition of love.

     

 

There are many kinds of love in the world. Love for country, love for friends, love for fashion, love for religion, and so on... But, I will only write about love between lovers which is the usual thought that we conceive when we heard love.

 

Scientists said that feeling love is just the effects of the hormone. And evolutionists and some philosopher like schopenhauer said that love is just the mean for preservation of the species. Is it all about love? Well, I don't want to admit that, but I can't say they are liar or they are wrong.

 

Objectively, they are right in some way. But I don't think they said everything about love. In other words, I think they only mention about the part of love which is partially correct. So, when we apply their explanation to the entire, some exceptions emerged like loving someone who were already dead or enjoying platonic love which means 'a meeting of minds without contact'.

 

Love is so abstract that we cannot define the love in objective ways. The existence of exceptions above prove objective ways have limitation for explaining all of love. But we can identify 'love' in philosophical analysis. The one thing we exactly recognize is 'love makes happiness'. we long for love because we know that we will be happy when we are loving. Therefore, we can conclude that love is good thing which makes happiness.

 

The Constitution that we erect for our life also ensure the right which is pursuit of people for happiness. So, we can say we are born to be happy and want to be happy. And loving can make what we want.

 

In conclusion, we can say that the definition of love is : "One of the ways to reach happiness that we are pursuing" 

Seonghwan Cho / Chapter2 Part5 A2 Draft2 / Wed 1-2

Causes of love failure

 

We all do love. Whether It is for our family, friends or beloved, we feel the feeling of love. It is important since It can be one factor that vitalize our life. But what we should know is the fact that the love may not be eternal. Sadly, sometimes we fail in love. Which circumstance causes love failure? I'm going to write about it. This time, I specifically deal with love within couples.

 

One thing is anxiety and obsession. This is an aspect of emotion inside ourselves. We are really happy when we have a lover. But suddenly, we fall into the feeling of anxiety that such a happy moment may end. It is because we human think too much. Of course, this anxiety itself doesn't ruin the relationship. There will be real trouble when It continues and arouses obsession. Obsession is a kind of demanding much more love and affection from the other. It can impose so much burden even when the lover has already been giving those that he or she quits the relationship. Fictional break-up in our head can eventually be reality.

 

Nagging and selfishness can be another. This is an aspect of attitude toward partner. We get to know each other more objectively as time goes on. We can see partner's flaws or differences with us which were invisible at the beginning due to the burning passion. And then, we point out those things. If the target of criticism is not wrong thing but different thing, the situation goes worse. Even though It is an area where understanding and respect are needed, we insist he or she adjust only to ourselves. It is selfish treatment. Thus, our beloved will say good-bye and leave us.

 

The last thing is a problem which comes from outside the relationship. That is a new man or woman. The burning passion is bursting again in our heart. But It is not for current lover but a new one. We should know that the strong emotion has ever pushed away the reason, rational thinking, once ago. Because of paralyzed reason, we, or our partner, unconsciously keep away from current beloved. It can be either rapid or gradual. In the end, we break up.

 

I especially write about obsession caused by anxiety, nagging and selfish attitude, and an appearance of new lover, which can all have an impact on love failure. However, we human are so various that there are much more causes, whether general or special, other than those things above. In this writing, I was supposed to just deal with the causes of failure in love; but to add my personal opinion, we should do effort not to scratch on cherished love.

 

Aya Bekkouche/ Chapter2 part5 draft2/wed1-2

 Someone once told me that the only thing worth living for is love because it is the closest thing to magic we have. Love in all its aspects has inspired some of the best literary works of our history, which is probably why most people spend their lives looking for it. There is a tremendous number of ways to define love, conventionally it is described as the profoundly tender, passionate affection we feel for another person. However, my definition of love can be summed-up in one single and totally different word: a choice. 

  

 

        People nowadays tend to perceive love as a fluffy happy feeling and covet it. Something we cannot blame them for since the concept of love is very romanticized through art, literature, cinema etc. They give us a very small insight on only one aspect of love and we take it for granted. Thus, we experience love as a feeling by procuration and presume that the one in real life is the same when really, it is not. Falling in love and the act of love itself are two different processes and while the first one is as easy and fast as falling, the second one is much more complex than the media will have us believe. 

             More often than not, real love has its sweat dripping down its forehead. Real love will require you to make huge sacrifices, to forgive when you are deeply hurt, to accept a person and DECIDE to love them even when they reveal the worst of themselves. Of course it almost always starts with the butterflies and the rainbows we read about, but once all of that is gone, we have to make a decision: do we want to love this person and or are we going to let them go? Which brings me to my main point: The act of love, real love, is about how worth you think it is to commit to somebody and how hard you decide to work for it. 

 

    I would like to sum up by saying that there is no completely wrong nor completely right definition of Love. But as far as I am concerned, real love is nothing else but a choice. It all comes down to how far you decide to go, how much you know in the very marrow of your bone that this person is someone worth fighting for. A series of choices that are not always easy to do. You choose to see the good, ignore the bad, move on and fight for what you decided not to live without.

 

Hye-ri Lee / Chapter 2, Part 5 A 2 Draft 2 / Wed 1-2

  <My definition of Love>

  We have heard so many stories of love in literatures, poems, movies and various parts of world, like love between princess and prince, between a beauty and the beast or parents and children. It made me wonder wether there is love only between man and woman(between people). If love existed in not only people but something like objects or activities, then how can we define love?

  Before talking about definition of love, I want to explain precondition of love that I define. I think that 'love' exist anywhere; in your families, your boy(or girl) friend and even your favorite things like singing a song, drawing pictures, seeing stars in the sky and so on. In other words, there is not always love only between people.

  We might feel love from impressing things that make you pleasant and you consider as meaningful. And we might decide our future or dream job according to what we love. Then, we can try to do our best to achieve our goals. Definitely, there is not only pain but also love in this effort. For example, there was a girl who really enjoyed playing the piano. So she wanted to be a pianist. And then, her feeling toward the piano motivated her to practice over and over again for improving her talent. For these efforts from her love, she become a great pianist. That is, love is emotional motivation to make her dream come true.

  So, I think that the world is full of love. Great inventions, impressing arts and touching miracles in the world have resulted from love that motivated someone to do his or her best. For instance, New Renewable Energy might be developed by love for protecting earth or studying science. Also, beautiful and comfortable buildings might be built by passionate love for architecture.

  Therefore, love affects individuals and furthermore, those individuals affect the world. In this aspect, I defined love as emotional motivation to endeavor for our lovely future that we really hope and guide us to our desirous world.  

Yejee OH / chp2 part 5 draft 2 / Wed 1-2

Definition of Love 

 

  Love can be  construed variously and differently by individuals. Peoples' perspective toward love can be an affection toward his or her people, a special bond or an inclination for certain objects, events or even much more else to keep in their mind and have special meaning of the subject. What came into my mind when I think of love is devotion. Anything but love expects nothing in return and the amount of love is immeasurable. Nothing else but devotion made it possible to make love so romantic and inseparable between people's relationships or emotions. 

 

One of the most represented love from devotion is maternal love. Mother's love can be eternal and nothing costs for being loved and cared. Mother's love can also be deeper than any other affection and no other people can be more thoughtful and have mindset of consideration. As living by, we face endless obstacles and problems. We would certainly experience the taste of failure, disheartened by relationships and sometimes discouraged because of careers or goals. Then mothers always stand there and encourage them to have better chance next time. Moreover, mothers' affection toward their child is filled with devotion and sacrifice. Maternal love includes mothers' expectation for their child to be living without any harm or frustration. They expect their child to be more successful and have better life by sacrificing themselves as steppingstones. 

 

It is commonly said that mother's instinctive love towards their child is the greatest of all. It can be the motivation for one's living, the reason to raise self-esteem, or the vigor to love others the same way. No matter what is in one's way and make one's life difficult, mothers are there for them and support their back for love and devotion without any compensation. Love is an widespread emotion that any relationship has, however, mother's love toward child is the upmost and the most invaluable care people can get. 

Hayeon Jin/ Chapter 2 Part 5, Draft 2 / Wed 1-2

Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure? (Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)

 

Most couples get married when their love peaks. That is why newlywed couples are so excited to live and be bonded together. The spouse would be the apple of his/ her eye at that time. However, when the sweet romance ends and the couple gets real, true marriage life starts. Couples fight often for various reasons as they live together and many of them end in divorce if the conflict goes too far. Misunderstanding, distrust, and boredom are the major causes of the marriage failure.

 

  

 Misunderstanding is one of the most common reasons why people fight, and even the lovebirds can hardly avoid it. As couples spend much time together and talk a lot, trivial or serious verbal conflicts naturally follow. The conflict might start when one's tongue slips or when one makes eluding speech. When the couples miss the chance to reconcile, misunderstanding begins. The message one party wanted to deliver to his/her spouse would be distorted in a bad way when they misunderstand each other. That is why trivial verbal conflicts sometimes lead couple to end in divorce. If the couples unknowingly accumulate their misunderstanding toward each other, it becomes the fire out of control.

 

 

Distrust is the most heartbreaking marriage failure. This often happens when one party does illicit love. Here is the general example for the better understanding. Let's say that the husband has a girlfriend and he secretly keeps in touch with her. Since the couple lives together, the wife would certainly know that her husband is hiding something. When the liaison gets caught, the wife would absolutely distrust her husband. Even he regrets and loves his wife again, she can hardly trust him back. Trust is so sophisticated that once it breaks, it is very hard to be rebuilt. Thus, the distrust often becomes the root cause of the marriage failure.

 

 

  Boredom is the most incontrollable cause of marriage failure. It happens when the couple does not love each other anymore. There are many reasons why their love gets cold. If they spend too much time together and fight often, they could get tired of each other. On the contrary, even if they do not go out and rarely spend time together for a long time, they could not care for each other. If those are not the case, the banality of old couples could also be the reason of boredom. Boredom is critical because there is no way to correct it. It is almost impossible for a person to love someone again when the love had gotten cold out of no reason.  That is why there is a saying that "Hatred is way better than indifference. ", and this is also applied to the couples.

 

 

   As mentioned above, there are numerous reasons of marriage failure. It is right to get divorced if the couples can't enjoy their time together. However, they should at least give the partner a second chance or try to rebuild the love before they decide to end their marriage in divorce.

Hyobin Jeon / Chapter 2, Part 5-A-2 draft 2/ Wed. 1-2

Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure?(Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)

 

<Most general reasons for getting divorced>

     Nowadays, being different from the past, many couples are getting divorced after their happy marriage. This social phenomenon was probably caused by a number of factors and some extremely personal factors, but I think there are some general reasons for it.

     The first reason is 'being fed up with each other'. When a couple get married, they get to live together for a very long period. During this period, some couple, or one-side partner of a couple, can be tired of being together because they spent so long time with each other. In the beginning of their newly-married life, everything will be felt like new and fresh for them. But, as time goes by, they are getting bored bit by bit with each other, like a children getting bored with their favorite toys.

     The second reason is 'the difference of their living style'. When a couple only date, not in the state of marriage, they don't share their own lifestyle such as how to squeeze the toothpaste or how to arrange clothes in the room. However, after they got married, a number of couples may have some trouble mediating lifestyles between two partners. And, if these troubles get more serious, divorce will be resulted finally.

     The third reason is 'their meeting with new love'. I think this is the most tragic case. The cases of two reasons I wrote above can occur in both side of a couple. So, when they get divorced, they can break up without any feelings left for each other(Of course there are many couples who don't fit for this example, but think about it in general). But, in this third case, when just only one partner happens to meet his or her new lover, the other partner would feel so miserable for own life. It is because they are deserted by their most loved one although they still love their partner who loves totally different person.

     In spite of the fact that there are still a lot of reasons why a couple gets their divorce, but these three reasons I mentioned above are the most generals.

     As a conclusion, if a couple does not love each other anymore and can not spend happy time together, getting divorced can be one of solutions. But, in my opinion, it is such an extreme situation. Instead, I think other solutions like trying to have more consideration for each other or having a heart-to-heart often are more better to improve relationships between a couple being on bad terms.

 

U Yong Chung/ Chapter2 Part 5 A2 2nd draft/ Wed 1~2

Marriage is one of the important thing in our life. To determine marriage, love is important factor which most couple consider when get married. However, nowadays many practical reasons hinder happy marriage life, at worst tons of couple ends in getting divorced. Especially in modern society, divorce's meaning has changed compared to the past, so the factors that decide to getting divorced varied because of the changing nature of marriage. Therefore, there are tons of factors which decide couples getting divorced in modern society.

First of all, the couple might have jumped into marriage for wrong reasons. In other words, they consider marriage for money which is quick tickets to divorce. There are words like gold digger who will have intercourse with a man only to use him for his money and cougar which is similar meaning with gold digger for a man. This words reflect the background of marriage for wrong reasons, most of all for money or their sexual desires.

Another cause of divorce is that they don't share the same vision of success in their life. This could be women who wants to advance into society opposed to man who wants their wife to stay in home for caring their children or do house works. In increasing ratio of the entry of women in public, many couples have conflicts about this problems. If this conflicts are not solved clearly, they might decide to getting divorce. Moreover, marriage couples need to share their vision because they have to think about their future, for instance residence problem, education fund for their children's college education and retirement savings etc. There are so many factors that marriage couples to share their vison for happy marriage life.

Abuse could also cause to couple deciding to get divorced. All people think that abusing is worst reason for couple to splits, but sadly statistically about 29% of couples decides to divorce because of abusing. In this case divorce can be much more complicated process because victims of abuse could have second dangers when preparing or announcing a divorce to your partner. Abuse between marriage couple is worst cause of heading to divorce and regrettably there are so many marriage couples who are victims of abusing in domestic.

Too much arguing could be the cause for the couples to split. Incessant arguing with partner doesn't lead to any resolution. In this situation probably the relationship will becoming worse and worse. Too much arguing with partner is the most reason to failure in marriages in statistic. About 56% of couples split because of this reason. One of the primary reasons to argument is because they are not understanding, appreciating or validating partner's perspective. If argument doesn't settle, then marriage couple begin to distrust each other, and at the end they will head to the court.

In conclusion, there are many factors why married couples end in divorce which is failure in love. In the background of failure, they might have the extrinsic reasons to divorce in modern society. In modern society, the relationship between people becomes more complicated than past, so nowadays divorce's meaning is changing. December divorce and graduating from marriage are alternate conformation of divorce in modern society. Therefore we have to consider why many couples break up and should change the perspective about the divorce which was negative in most of people's stereotype. We have to see the concept of divorce with open minded.

Christina Woo/Chapter 2 Part5 A1 Draft 2/Wed 1-2

My Definition Of Love

    "And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love." It is a famous scripture from the Christian bible. The definition of love has infinite explanations and meanings, but really, what is the true answer to this? I have cut it down into three words. Care, share, and dare. These three words represent my own perspective toward love.

    My first definition of love is to care. Caring for others as if the problem and situation is your own. It is to be in the other person's shoes. It is not to think less of yourself, but to think more of the person you love first. Caring is making an effort instead of making excuses. I believe that when someone truly cares for you, your feelings would unconsciously be connected, even without having to say or hear it. Caring takes effort, and even the tiniest creatures on earth need to be cared for in order to live. A couple with care will never face a sad ending.

    My second definition of love is to share. It is said that happiness is only real when it is shared with another, and what use is it by trying hard to reach your goals and dreams if there is no person to share it with? The more we have, the more we want, so in such a time as this where people are becoming selfish and striving for more, why don't we start sharing with a genuine and sincere heart? From sharing properties to complex emotion, sharing makes a relationship stronger. There is no point of being with someone if you are not going to give or take anything from each other. You sometimes take more and sometimes give more, but that is how love works, how sharing works.

    My last definition of love is to dare. A daring love is like an infinite source of energy which never burns out. Two people's energy and effort gives a magnificent power in the society. Two people are together not to make things easier, but so that they could be stronger enough to overcome obstacles. So don't just expect a lovey-dovey relationship. Instead, by embracing each other make yourselves motivated and give power to each other. In fact, love should be daring and challenging enough in order to grow together. Love  is not a stop sign. It is a sign that will tell you the way to further destination.

    In conclusion, love cannot be fully explained in words. There is no right answer for what love is. However, as for me, caring, sharing, and daring is an important factor of love which is the most difficult task; something we learn eternally. It is never ending difficult process, but that is why people have each other to hold through the learning process.

3 questions about the topic

1. How can love be fully explained? Can it?

2. Challenge is an important factor. Do most people take the challenge and dare positively?

3. How do you know if someone is "the one" for you? As in life partner?

Sungtae Kim/ Chapter2 Part5 Second Draft/ Wed1~2

Causes of Marriage Problems

Happy marriage is an important factor in life that can influence and determine how happy a person will be in the future. It influences health and entire well-being of people in positive way. On the other hand, failure in marriage can be devastating to our mental, physical state. Even worse, it can cause divorce. Therefore it is important to properly acknowledge the causes of these failures. This essay will feature 3 most important causes; lack of communication, not understanding the flaws, and low cooperation.

First, lack of communication is harmful in the marriage. It is almost impossible to sustain friendship, which is one of the most basic type of relationship, if there is few communication between the two people. To protect certain relationship it is significant to keep in touch with each other. Marriage is a very fragile and delicate type of relationship which takes extremely long time to recover when it is spoiled. Talking and exchanging the feeling can protect marriage from being harmed.

Another cause of divorce is focusing on the flaws of each other. Actually this is the main cause of discords in all kinds of relationships. There isn't anybody who would prefer listening another person pick up the flaws and keep scolding about it. When a gardener finds out that a tree is sick, he doesn't just cut off all the parts that have disease. He would rather try to scrape out as little as possible and carefully wrap it so that it can recover. Over-criticizing is like trying to cut all the parts of the tree that are ill. It at times may change the person on few aspects, but there is more chance that he or she get overwhelmed and eventually end the relationship. Instead of doing this, finding good aspects and complimenting about it can enhance the marriage and even help the damaged relationship to recover.

Finally, not cooperating can cause the problem. Cooperation has long been stressed as the essential characteristic in group life. That's why all the companies and schools ask the applicants to prove that they can cooperate with others. Marriage is also a type of group life. Some people say that marriage is like a machine. If each component in the machine that should be interlocked, try not to "cooperate" anymore, would it be a problem? The machine will surely break down. Similarly, lack of cooperation can make the marriage difficult to go on. However, if the couple try hard to help each other sincerely and understand the differences, the problems will be alleviated or even automatically solved.

As a conclusion, arguments and problems in marriage are caused by lack of communication, concentrating on the faults of the spouse, and not cooperating. In reality, there are much more causes of marriage problems that are not mentioned in this passage. But if the root of the relationship between the couple is strengthen enough by following the feedbacks mentioned earlier, the problems will definitely decrease.

Soyoung Woo/Chapter2 part5 A2/Wed 1-2

2.Cause and effect. Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure? (Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)

 

Sometimes, We hear that our acquaintances are getting divorce of We ever seen news or articles reporting that someone suffers a divorce. I think a divorce is not far from us. So I thought about causes of divorces and I found causes.

 

First, If young couples get married, they have a high possibility of immaturity maybe. That they are still young and thy are accustomed to their parents will be a cause of divorce. So they will experience many conflicts each other. Eventually their marriages will end in divorce. I think that a marriage which is not prepared will bring a tragedy to husband and wife. a planned marriage is need surely for each other.

 

Second, I think that personalities and habits between husband and wife are very important factors in marriage. If a couple has very different personalities and habits, they will experience many conflicts certainly. For example, If a wife is a early bird and husband is late bird, the wife thinks that her husband is lazy. so she will criticizes him due to his life habit. But he is not wrong. It's just a life habit. Just they are different. so I think that It's very important to know each other.

 

Third, There is a possibility of unfaithfulness. If a wife loves a man other than her husband(vice versa), It's a cause of a divorce and I think that they have to divorce after enough conversations and enough considerations. I think that love is a premise of marriage. so it is not make sense a marriage without love due to their children or money or contract. so I think that it is very important to know How I love my partner.

 

Minjeong Lee/chater 2 part 5 A1/Wed 1-2

What is love? It is too hard to clarify the notion of 'love', but I dare to define what love is. Love, whoever is in or however the situation is, is the factor that make people understand others. In this sense, the word 'love' is not necessarily bound to the eros, which is a kind of love and means sexual love between two people, but other loves such as agape—unconditional love, especially of the God's— and philia—friendship—. 

 

 

Love enable people to 'try' to understand other people. I, or we should all admit that we are all born differently, and grew up in unique situations. Each person are individual object who has colossal mind-universe within. We meant to misunderstand others. It is the curse on human being, and the fate of us. However, as long as it is so hard to understand others, to know one's history, present and future is a lover's prestige. We are longing for being exceptional, then we try our best to know lovers' everything and be the one who can understand the one. So in this cruel world that each individual takes each other wrong, love's existence make others matter. As I mentioned above, to understand is tough, so we should put effort on understanding others if we are in love. To quote my favorite author, 'making effort for other, the action itself, makes our lives valuable'. The strong feeling of love make human beings to think about others, guess what they like, understand —although it is impossible to understand the whole of other individual— how they think and act, and be better person because they are in love and all they want to is to navigate the beckoning universe of the loved one.

Hye-ri Lee/chater 2 part 5 A2/Wed 1-2

<My definition of Love>

 ​ We have heard so many stories of love in literatures, poems, movies and various parts of world. Can you answer what the true love is? Is there love only between man and woman(between people)? Then, What is love?

  I think that 'love' exist anywhere; in your families, your boy(or girl) friend and even your favorite musics, pictures, drawing, literatures and so on. I think that there is not always love only between people.

 Have you felt delight and been touched by watching your favorite movies, listening wonderful musics or doing something? And then, you repeated these exciting things, so did they make you pleased and moved again? If your answer is 'yes', then I'm sure that you definitely felt love from those things.

  In my experience, I was really joyful and relaxed when watching my favorite movie, 'About Time' and listening the songs inserted in the movie. I definitely feel love from thinking about my life with the lessons of the movie and fulfilling these lessons in my daily life.

  That is, We might feel love from impressing things that make you pleasant and you consider as meaningful. And we might decide our future or dream job according to what we love. Then, we will try to do our best to achieve our goals and I think that there is not only pain but love in this effort.

  For instance, someone deeply love to teach and guide others to right way. So she wanted to become a teacher. To be qualified for teaching others, she would study greatly hard and participated various activities related in education. Then after she become a teacher, she might regard her endeavors as meaningful things and love these experiences.

  I guess that 'love' motivates for us to endeavor for our lovely future that we really hope. Thus, great inventions, impressing arts and touching miracles in the world have resulted from love that motivated someone to do his or her best. In this aspect, I think definition of love is emotional motivation for people to guide their desirous future. 

Jeeny Jung/ Chapter 2 Part 5 A2/ Wed 1-2

2. Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure?

 

Couples get married to live happily ever after with their partners for the rest of their lives. Nevertheless, in reality there aren't only bright sides of marriage and I believe that's why the quote 'marriage is real' exists. When couples get married, a whole new life stars. Even if they have known each other for a long time, living together makes a difference. Therefore, lack of consideration and too much fantasies may lead to frequent fights making them both tired. Which I think is the main cause of marriage failure.

 

 To begin with, different values on marriage may lead to divorce. And this may happen more often in nowadays since people's attitudes have changed throughout time. Traditionally, women took full responsible on housework. But in modern society, as many women have their own careers they do not like nor have time to take complete care on household chores. Thus, if there is a husband who wants his wife to quit her job while she doesn't would make a trouble. Because this is a major factor that couples should make an agreement on, since it is a part of the future of their marriage. Hence, when a couple do not yield nor make an agreement on these issues, it may be hard to continue their relationship.

 

 Secondly unrealistic dreams on marriage could be the cause of failures. Couples might have thought marriage only full of passion and pleasure due to the happy ending romance movies. However in reality as people enter marriage they face various difficulties. There could be money problems and they may argue often over minor things forming a feeling of distance from their fantasies. Also, when their dreams are too big, they feel a sense that their marriage is unhappy unlike others and end the marriage rather than trying to overcome the obstacles.

 

 Nowadays divorce is accepted to the society and people than before. Therefore in my opinion, it is preferable to separate with each other rather than living with the person that does not fit anymore which only have troubles when they spend time with.

hyunseo Jung/chapter2 part 5-A-2/ Wed 1~2

"And they lived a long and happy marriage" Most of the stories are ended like this. But the reality is different and it just exists in fairy tale. According to the National statistical office, 24% of couples end in divorce. Then why many people experience this failure. I think there are 2 main reasons; wrong fantasy and difference in personality.

 

First many people have their own marriage fantasy. But usually it is too unrealistic to be realized. Most of people overheard about marriage through drama or movie. However these kinds of media just describe the most ideal husband, wife and family. So many couple came to feel that their marriage is the worst.

 

Next, the most common reason people explain their failure is difference in personality. Two different people who have another lifestyle and experience came to live together, and that is marriage. There are lots of fights and arguments between family who lived more than 20 years together. It is unavoidable and natural to have a fight because of the different personality.

 

Two people meet, fall in love and marriage is the most wonderful events for them. Although divorce could be the answer, believing and respecting each other might be the better choice.

 

 

hyunseo Jung/chapter2 part 5-A-2/ Wed 1~2

"And they lived a long and happy marriage" Most of the stories are ended like this. But the reality is different and it just exists in fairy tale. According to the National statistical office, 24% of couples end in divorce. Then why many people experience this failure. I think there are 2 main reasons; wrong fantasy and difference in personality.

 First many people have their own marriage fantasy. But usually it is too unrealistic to be realized. Most of people overheard about marriage through drama or movie. However these kinds of media just describe the most ideal husband, wife and family. So many couple came to feel that their marriage is the worst.

 Next, the most common reason people explain their failure is difference in personality. Two different people who have another lifestyle and experience came to live together, and that is marriage. There are lots of fights and arguments  between family who lived more than 20 years together. It is unavoidable and natural to have a fight because of the different personality.

 Two people meet, fall in love and marriage is the most wonderful events for them. Although divorce could be the answer, believing and respecting each other might be the better choice.

Ye Eun Park / Chapter 2 Part 5 A1 / Wed 1-2

Write your definition of love

Many people are loving someone and are loved by someone. Also love is used for making songs, dramas or movies very often. So love can be said to be close to our lives very much. In the world, there are various kinds of love. It's difficult to define love a few words. However I think there are some characteristics of love that we should pursue.

First - to think and worry someone always

I think love is based on attention and concern. So when one loves someone, one have no choice but to think him or her very often. Sometimes there are people who date someone but have no concern or worrying lover. I don't think it's desirable love. This kind of love can be easily transformed into just for pleasure.

Second - to be comfortable, relaxed and happy when one is with lover

I think love should not be in tense condition. When we love someone, we can share each other's feeling. It's mean there's nothing to hide each other. It can be interpreted that we should be sincere to lover.

When people hear the word "love", most people think man and woman's love. In man and woman's love, sexual love can be considered important too. However, I think the contents that I mentioned must take precedence over sexual love.

According to what I mentioned before, love is similar to consideration. As I said before, there are various loves in the world. Love is a emotion that human beings feel. So love can be pursued in various ways. However I think consideration is important element for healthy love. I can say this opinion is accurate.

Hyobin Jeon / Chapter 2, Part 5-A-2 / Wed. 1-2

Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure?(Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)

Nowadys, being different from the past, many couples are getting divorced after their happy marriage. This social phenomenon was probably caused by a number of factors and some extremely personal factors, but I think there are some general reasons for it.

The first reason is 'being fed up with each other'. When a couple get married, they get to live together for a very long period. During this period, some couple, or one-side partner of a couple, can be tired of being together because they spent so long time with each other. In the beginning of their newly-married life, everyting will be felt like new and fresh for them. But, as time goes by, they are getting bored with each other, like a children getting bored with his or her favorite toys.

The second reason is 'the difference of their living style'. When a couple only date, not in the state of marriage, they don't share their own lifestyle such as how to squeeze the toothpaste or how to arrange clothes in the room. However, after they got married, a number of couples may have some trouble mediating between two partners. And, if this trouble gets more serious, divorce will be resulted

The third reason is 'their meeting with new love'. I think this is the most tragic case. The cases of two reasons I wrote above can occur in both side of a couple. So, when they get divorced, they can break up without any feelings left for each other(Of course there are many couples who don't fit for this example, but think about it in general). But, in this third case, when just only one partner happens to meet his or her new lover, the other partner would feel so miserable for own life. It is because they are deserted by their most loved one although they still love their partner who loves totally different person.

In spite of the fact that there are still a lot of reasons why a couple gets their divorce, but these three reasons I mentioned above are the most generals, I think.

As a conclusion, if a couple does not love each other anymore and can not spend happy time together, getting divorce can be one of solution. But, in my opinion, it is such an extreme situation. Instead, I think other solutions like trying to have more consideration for each other or having a heart-to-heart often are more better to improve relationship between a couple being on bad terms.