Causes of love failure
We all do love. Whether It is for our family, friends or beloved, we feel the feeling of love. It is important since It can be one factor that vitalize our life. But what we should know is the fact that the love may not be eternal. Sadly, sometimes we fail in love. Which circumstance causes love failure? I'm going to write about it. This time, I specifically deal with love within couples.
One thing is anxiety and obsession. This is an aspect of emotion inside ourselves. We are really happy when we have a lover. But suddenly, we fall into the feeling of anxiety that such a happy moment may end. It is because we human think too much. Of course, this anxiety itself doesn't ruin the relationship. There will be real trouble when It continues and arouses obsession. Obsession is a kind of demanding much more love and affection from the other. It can impose so much burden even when the lover has already been giving those that he or she quits the relationship. Fictional break-up in our head can eventually be reality.
Nagging and selfishness can be another. This is an aspect of attitude toward partner. We get to know each other more objectively as time goes on. We can see partner's flaws or differences with us which were invisible at the beginning due to the burning passion. And then, we point out those things. If the target of criticism is not wrong thing but different thing, the situation goes worse. Even though It is an area where understanding and respect are needed, we insist he or she adjust only to ourselves. It is selfish treatment. Thus, our beloved will say good-bye and leave us.
The last thing is a problem which comes from outside the relationship. That is a new man or woman. The burning passion is bursting again in our heart. But It is not for current lover but a new one. We should know that the strong emotion has ever pushed away the reason, rational thinking, once ago. Because of paralyzed reason, we, or our partner, unconsciously keep away from current beloved. It can be either rapid or gradual. In the end, we break up.
I especially write about obsession caused by anxiety, nagging and selfish attitude, and an appearance of new lover, which can all have an impact on love failure. However, we human are so various that there are much more causes, whether general or special, other than those things above. In this writing, I was supposed to just deal with the causes of failure in love; but to add my personal opinion, we should do effort not to scratch on cherished love.
Hi, I'm Hye-ri from your class.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I want to talk about your good analisis of cause of love failure; internal factors like lovers' emotional factors and external factors like appearance of new lover. I think it is not biased but truely balanced aspect. And you started your paragraphs with core-sentances, so I could easily understood what you said next. Thank you for sharing!