Taehun Kim/ Chapter2 Part 5 A2/ Wed 1~2

Q. Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure? (Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you

know.)

 

These days, more couples are getting divorced. In South Korea, for example, divorce rate has more than tripled during the last 3 decades. Nowadays, more than 300 couples get divorced every day, according to the Korea National Statistical Office. Then, why are more couples getting divorced these days? The answer lies in the changing views on divorce, and the women's rise of social status. If these are the reasons why divorce rate is going up, why are they getting divorced in the first place? Probably it's because their marriage didn't work out. I believe there're a few reasons why divorced couple's marriage failed.

 

First of all, lack of understanding and trust for each other is one reason. Men and women are very different, not only biologically but also emotionally. They think differently, even in the same situation. Therefore, if they didn't understand this, they would fight a lot and eventually become divorced. Also, trust is very important in a relationship. This is closely related to understanding each other. If they don't understand each other, it will lead to mistrust, and ultimately end in divorce.

 

Secondly, marrying each other without thoroughly knowing their personality would be another reason. When most people marry, it's the result of years of relationship. However, dating and living together are a whole different thing. You can't see every aspect of your spouse when dating. Thus, the only way to know the real personality is by living together. But once you start living together and if your spouse's personality doesn't match yours, there will be constant fighting and eventually it will lead to divorce.

 

Finally, lack of communication is another reason for the failure of marriage. Communication is a key factor in understanding how others think and the best way to solve a conflict. However, if there's no communication, it will be harder to solve conflicts and settle the differences between the two. This will pile up until one of them can't stand it anymore, resulting in divorce.

 

In conclusion, I believe that the main reasons couples get divorced are as follows: the lack of understanding and trust, marrying each other without thoroughly knowing their personality, and the lack of communication. If married couples did exactly the opposite of what I stated above, they probably would live happily ever after.