Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure?(Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)
<Most general reasons for getting divorced>
Nowadays, being different from the past, many couples are getting divorced after their happy marriage. This social phenomenon was probably caused by a number of factors and some extremely personal factors, but I think there are some general reasons for it.
The first reason is 'being fed up with each other'. When a couple get married, they get to live together for a very long period. During this period, some couple, or one-side partner of a couple, can be tired of being together because they spent so long time with each other. In the beginning of their newly-married life, everything will be felt like new and fresh for them. But, as time goes by, they are getting bored bit by bit with each other, like a children getting bored with their favorite toys.
The second reason is 'the difference of their living style'. When a couple only date, not in the state of marriage, they don't share their own lifestyle such as how to squeeze the toothpaste or how to arrange clothes in the room. However, after they got married, a number of couples may have some trouble mediating lifestyles between two partners. And, if these troubles get more serious, divorce will be resulted finally.
The third reason is 'their meeting with new love'. I think this is the most tragic case. The cases of two reasons I wrote above can occur in both side of a couple. So, when they get divorced, they can break up without any feelings left for each other(Of course there are many couples who don't fit for this example, but think about it in general). But, in this third case, when just only one partner happens to meet his or her new lover, the other partner would feel so miserable for own life. It is because they are deserted by their most loved one although they still love their partner who loves totally different person.
In spite of the fact that there are still a lot of reasons why a couple gets their divorce, but these three reasons I mentioned above are the most generals.
As a conclusion, if a couple does not love each other anymore and can not spend happy time together, getting divorced can be one of solutions. But, in my opinion, it is such an extreme situation. Instead, I think other solutions like trying to have more consideration for each other or having a heart-to-heart often are more better to improve relationships between a couple being on bad terms.
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