Marriage is one of the crucial moment in our life. To determine marriage, love is crucial factor which most couple consider when get married. However, nowadays many practical reasons hinder happy marriage life, at worst tons of couple ends in getting divorced. Especially in modern society, divorce's meaning has changed compare to past society, so the factors that decide to getting divorced varied because of the changing nature of marriage. Therefore, there are tons of factors which decide couples getting divorced in modern society.
First of all, the couple might have jumped into marriage for wrong reason. In other words, they consider marriage for money which is quick tickets to divorce. There are words like "gold digger" who will have intercourse with a man only to use him for his money and "cougar" which is similar meaning with gold digger for man. This words reflect the background of marriage for wrong reasons, most of all for money or their sexual desires.
Another cause of divorce is that they don't share the same vision of success in their life. This could be women who wants to advance into society opposed to man who wants their wife to stay in home for caring children or do house works. In increasing ratio of the entry of women in public, many couples have conflicts about this problems. If this conflicts not solved clearly, they might decide to getting divorce. Moreover, marriage couples need to share their vision because they have to think about the future, for instance residence problem, education fund for their children's college education and retirement savings etc. There are so many factors that marriage couples to share their vison for happy marriage life.
Abuse could also cause to couple deciding to get divorced. All people think that abusing is worst reason to consider splits, but sadly statistically about 29% of couples decides to divorce because of abusing. In this case divorce can be much more complicated process because victims of abuse could have second dangers when preparing or announcing a divorce to your partner. Abuse between marriage couple is worst cause of heading to divorce and regrettably there are so many marriage couples who are victims of abusing in domestic.
Too much arguing could be the cause for the couples to split. Incessant arguing with partner doesn't lead to any resolution. In this situation probably the relationship will becoming worse and worse. Too much arguing with partner is the most reason to failure in marriages in statistic. About 56% of couples split because of this reason. One of the primary reasons to argument is because they are not understanding, appreciating or validating partner's perspective. If argument doesn't settle, then marriage couple begin to distrust each other, and at the end they will head to court.
In conclusion, there are many factors why married couples end in divorce which is failure in love. In the background of failure, they might have the extrinsic reasons to divorce in modern society. In modern society, the relationship between people becomes more complicated than past, so nowadays divorce's meaning is changing. December divorce and graduating from marriage are alternate conformation of divorce in modern society. Therefore we have to consider why many couples break up and should change the perspective about the divorce which was negative in most of normal people's stereotype. We have to see the concept of divorce with open minded.
Hi I'm jeeny jung from your class. While reading your writing i got to know a new concept called 'gold digger' and 'cougar'. Also as you introduced 4 different causes, it was a good chance for me to view divorce in various points. Thanks for sharing!
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