Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure? (Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)
Most couples get married when their love peaks. That is why newlywed couples are so excited to live and be bonded together. The spouse would be the apple of his/ her eye at that time. However, when the sweet romance ends and the couple gets real, true marriage life starts. Couples fight often for various reasons as they live together and many of them end in divorce if the conflict goes too far. Misunderstanding, distrust, and boredom are the major causes of the marriage failure.
Misunderstanding is one of the most common reasons why people fight, and even the lovebirds can hardly avoid it. As couples spend much time together and talk a lot, trivial or serious verbal conflicts naturally follow. The conflict might start when one's tongue slips or when one makes eluding speech. When the couples miss the chance to reconcile, misunderstanding begins. The message one party wanted to deliver to his/her spouse would be distorted in a bad way when they misunderstand each other. That is why trivial verbal conflicts sometimes lead couple to end in divorce. If the couples unknowingly accumulate their misunderstanding toward each other, it becomes the fire out of control.
Distrust is the most heartbreaking marriage failure. This often happens when one party does illicit love. Here is the general example for the better understanding. Let's say that the husband has a girlfriend and he secretly keeps in touch with her. Since the couple lives together, the wife would certainly know that her husband is hiding something. When the liaison gets caught, the wife would absolutely distrust her husband. Even he regrets and loves his wife again, she can hardly trust him back. Trust is so sophisticated that once it breaks, it is very hard to be rebuilt. Thus, the distrust often becomes the root cause of the marriage failure.
Boredom is the most incontrollable cause of marriage failure. It happens when the couple does not love each other anymore. There are many reasons why their love gets cold. If they spend too much time together and fight often, they could get tired of each other. On the contrary, even if they do not go out and rarely spend time together for a long time, they could not care for each other. If those are not the case, the banality of old couples could also be the reason of boredom. Boredom is critical because there is no way to correct it. It is almost impossible for a person to love someone again when the love had gotten cold out of no reason. That is why there is a saying that "Hatred is way better than indifference. ", and this is also applied to the couples.
As mentioned above, there are numerous reasons of marriage failure. It is right to get divorced if the couples can't enjoy their time together. However, they should at least give the partner a second chance or try to rebuild the love before they decide to end their marriage in divorce.
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