Jeeny Jung/ Chapter 2 Part 5 A2 2nd draft/ Wed 1-2

2. Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure?

 

Marriage is an event that should be celebrated, blessing the happiness of two loving people. But it also means that a whole new life has started. For example, unlike the old days one would have to discuss and agree with their spouse before making decisions even on minor things. I believe this is the part where the quote 'marriage is real' takes place. Even if they have known each other for a long time, a clash of opinion is inevitable. Whether they solve those issues will decide the future of their marriage. And in my opinion, the typical examples that are difficult to reach agreements are different values on housework and fantasies of marriage.

 

 To begin with, deciding roles in the house have caused many divorces. This may happen more often in nowadays since attitude towards gender have changed. Traditionally, it was considered natural for women to take full responsible for housework. However now in the modern society, distributing chores have become essential as the entry of women in the society has increased. Thus working couples should make balance in doing household chores. Nevertheless, despite the fact that the couples both work equally there are still some couples which women take more care of housework. Or there could be a case of a couple with a wife who wants to continue her career but a husband wanting her to be a housewife and vice versa. Household chores may seem like a minor issue, but it is one of the matters that they would face during their whole marriage life. Which makes tension grow between them, and eventually making it hard to continue their relationship.

 

 Secondly, unrealistic dreams on marriage could be the cause of divorces. Through various dramas, movies and books, marriage has appeared to be only full of passion and love due to many happy endings. Hence several couples tend to have fantasies and look forward to their marriage life. However, as they enter marriage they get to face the reality. It is natural for couples to encounter numerous difficulties which could include money problems, children issues and difference in values with their partner. But when people with excessive marriage goals argue with their partner over these issues, they only get to feel more distance from their romantic ideas about marriage. Also as the dreams of their marriage are bigger, it is hard to acknowledge the reality. So they may conclude that their marriage has failed rather than trying to overcome the obstacles and make it a better marriage themselves. Which makes these couples with no opportunities to solve or reach an agreement but to divorce.

 

 In conclusion, besides these reasons there could be numerous other causes. And at the same time, the divorce rate is increasing over every year. However divorce is, and should be no longer reflected in a negative image as it was in the past. Because if couples cannot solve or develop their bad situations, divorce could be a rather good choice than enduring the bad marriage. Therefore people should definitely not get married with a light heart, but they should not also exclude divorce as a solution because of prejudices.