Causes of love failure
We all do love. Whether It is for our family, friends or beloved, we feel the feeling of love. It is important since It can be one factor that vitalize our life. But what we should know is the fact that the love may not be eternal. Sadly, sometimes we fail in love. Which circumstance causes love failure? I'm going to write about it. This time, I deal with specifically love within couples.
One thing is anxiety and obsession. This is an aspect of emotion inside ourselves. We are really happy when we have a lover. But suddenly, we fall into the feeling of anxiety that such a happy moment may end. It is because we human think too much. Of course, this anxiety itself doesn't ruin the relationship. There will be real trouble when It continues and arouses obsession. Obsession is a kind of demanding much more love and affection from the other. It can impose so much burden even when the lover has already been giving those that he or she quits the relationship. Fictional break-up in our head can eventually be reality.
Nagging and selfishness can be another. This is an aspect of attitude toward partner. We get to know each other more objectively as time goes on. We can see partner's flaws or differences with us which were invisible at the beginning due to the burning passion. And then, we point out those things. If the target of criticism is not wrong thing but different thing, the situation goes worse. Even though It is an area where understanding and respect are needed, we insist he or she adjust only to ourselves. It is selfish treatment. Thus, our beloved will say good-bye and leave us.
The last thing is a problem which comes from outside the relationship. That is a new man or woman. The burning passion is bursting again in our heart. But It is not for current lover but a new one. We should know that the strong emotion has ever pushed away the reason once ago. Because of paralyzed reason, we, or our partner, unconsciously keep away from current beloved. It can be either rapid or gradual. In the end, we break up.
I especially write about obsession caused by anxiety, nagging and selfish attitude, and an appearance of new lover, which can all have an impact on love failure. However, we human are so various that there are much more causes, whether general or special, other than those things above. In this writing, I was supposed to just deal with the causes of failure in love; but to add my personal opinion, we should do effort not to scratch on cherished love.
Seonghwan Cho / Chapter2 Part5 A2 / Wed 1-2
Hello I'm U Yong Chung. I really enjoyed your writing. It was interesting that you write about obsession. I agree with your opinion that obssseion might impact on failure of love. Especially the last sentence of writing really impressed me. Your composition of writing was great so that I could understand the writing easily. I hoped that if you added a example about your causes, then it will be better to understand. Thank you for sharing your writing
ReplyDeleteHi I'm Sungtae Kim. Thank you for sharing this writing, I enjoyed it. Seeing overall contents and structure of this essay, I thought that its like a building with stable foundation. In other word, it's well organized. Expressions were great, too. You used some words that materializes the invisible things like passion. But reading the text, I was confused by some of the expressions you used. For example, you used the word 'reason', and it wasn't easy to get it right away unless I consider the context, so I suggest that you could use synonyms such as 'rational thinking' which is easier to understand. There were few grammatical mistakes about the last sentence of first paragraph, I think you need to add 'will' or 'am going to' and change order of 'with' and 'specifically'. Other than that it was good essay. I agree with the causes you mentioned. Thanks.
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