2. Many marriages end in divorce, often because love has failed. What are the causes of this failure? (Think in general terms, not of one particular couple you know.)
Most couples get married when their love peaks. That is why newlywed couples are so excited to live and be bonded together. The spouse would be the apple of his/ her eye at that time. However, when the sweet romance ends and the couple gets real, true marriage life starts. Couples fight often for various reasons as they live together and many of them end in divorce if the conflict goes too far. Misunderstanding, distrust, and boredom are the major causes of the marriage failure.
Misunderstanding is one of the most common reasons why people fight, and the couples can hardly avoid it. As couples spend much time together and talk a lot, trivial or serious verbal conflicts naturally follow. The conflict might start when one's tongue slips or when one makes eluding speech. When the couples lose a chance to reconcile, misunderstanding begins. The message one party wanted to deliver to his/her spouse would be distorted in a bad way when they misunderstand each other.
Distrust is the most heartbreaking marriage failure. This often happens when one party does illicit love. For instance, when the husband has a girlfriend, he would secretly keep in touch with her. Since the couple lives together, the wife would certainly know that her husband is hiding something. When the liaison gets caught, the wife would absolutely distrust her husband. Even he regrets and loves his wife again, she can hardly trust him back. It means to say that the break of trust is equal to the break of smooth and sweet marriage.
Boredom is the most incontrollable cause of marriage failure. It happens when the couple does not love each other anymore. There are many reasons why their love gets cold. If they spend too much time together and fight often, they could get tired of each other. On the contrary, even if they do not go out and rarely spend time together for a long time, they could not care for each other. If those are not the case, the banality of old couples could also be the reason of boredom.
As mentioned above, there are numerous reasons of marriage failure. It is right to get divorce if the couples can't enjoy their time together. However, they should at least give the partner a second chance or try to love their spouse more before they decide to end the marriage in divorce.
HI, I'm seonghwan from same class. I think you clarified the causes and divided paragraphs well. I could get the main idea clearly. Also, I could consent to all the three reason easily. I mean you worte it in a general case. But it will be better to explain the distrust part more. That paragraph is filled with almost the description of example. Overall, I like your writing and enjoyed it. Thank you for sharing! :)
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