Marriage is a crucial incident in life that can influence and determine how happy a person will be in the future. Happy marriage is a potent factor that makes people enjoy their life. It influences health and entire well-being of people in positive way. On the other hand, failure in marriage can be devastating to the mental, physical state. Even worse, it can cause divorce. Therefore it is important to properly acknowledge the causes of these failures and try to revise the behavior.
First, lack of communication is harmful in the marriage. It is almost impossible to sustain friendship, which is one of the most basic type of relationship, if there is few communication between the two people. To protect certain relationship it is significant to keep in touch with each other. Marriage is a very fragile and delicate type of relationship which takes extremely long time to recover when it is spoiled. Talking and exchanging the feeling can protect marriage from being harmed.
Another cause of divorce is focusing on the flaws of each other. Actually this is the main cause of discords in all kinds of relationships. There isn't anybody who would prefer listening another person pick up the flaws and keep scolding about it. When a gardener finds out that a tree is sick, he doesn't just cut off all the parts that have disease. He would rather try to scrape out as little as possible and carefully wrap it so that it can recover. Over-criticizing is like trying to cut all the parts of the tree that are ill. It at times may change the person on few aspects, but there is more chance that he or she get overwhelmed and eventually end the relationship. Instead of doing this, finding good aspects and complimenting about it can enhance the marriage and even help the damaged relationship to recover.
Finally, not cooperating can cause the problem. Cooperation has long been stressed as the essential characteristic in group life. That's why all the companies and schools ask the applicants to prove that they can cooperate with others. Marriage is also a type of group life. Some people say that marriage is like a machine. If each component in the machine that should be interlocked, try not to "cooperate" anymore, would it be a problem? The machine will surely break down. Similarly, lack of cooperation can make the marriage difficult to go on. However, if the couple try hard to help each other sincerely and understand the differences, the problems will be alleviated or even automatically solved.
As a conclusion, arguments and problems in marriage are caused by lack of communication, concentrating on the faults of the spouse, and not cooperating. In reality, there are much more causes of marriage problems that are not mentioned in this passage like being dishonest. But if the root of the relationship between the couple is strengthen enough by following the feedbacks mentioned earlier, the problems will definitely decrease.
Hi, I'm seonghwan at same class. I really really liked the first paragraph. It is because It clarify the importance(or necessity) of discussion. But I think you need to concentrate on couples more. I mean, although you mentioned failure in marriage on the first paragraph, you used the expression like 'to sustain friedship', 'in all kind of relationship', 'in group life' on the following paragraphs. Those expanded the discussion from relationship between couples or marriaged people to all of the relationship. Overall, I could agree with all the causes. Thank you for sharing!
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