In Chapter 1, it explains about how birth order causes influence to one individual's personalities and relationship with others. "How Your Birth Order Influences Your Life Adjustment" by Lucille K. Forer and "Born for Each Other?" by Pamela Withers explain birth order effect in very well known way. In those articles, they introduce most people's common idea on birth order. But I think Birth Order can't decide one individual's personalities and relationship with others.
We have very different environment by person. Personalities are created in individual's environment. Parents are different and rules in house are different too. For example, one parents teach responsibility to older child and give relaxed environment to Youngest child, another parents give relaxed and less tense environment all children. In my case, my parents give relatively same relaxed and free environment me and my sister.
Because I'm youngest child in my family, I read Youngest child section particularly carefully. In these article, Youngest child is illustrated dependent, not capable relatively and less ambitious. I can agree some but I can't agree about capacity aspect. I think I am very ambitious person and I haven't lived in easy-going way. When I was young, I often treated in these way too. My relations and people around think my older sister capable than me with no reason. I don't feel bad with this manner at that time. But I think this manner has problems. My sister suffered for this attitude. Whenever she do something, she is often expected to act better than me. She told me that she is sometimes tired of this manner and feel burden. As I say before, birth order can't decide personalities or ability. I think people must see a person regardless of birth order. This manner will help child to grow with all possibilities of any fields.
Consequently, I think birth order is just one part in environment. Birth order, rules in house, parents' attitude to children and so on are just elements that make one's personality. One's personality can't explained in one aspect. It is created very complex way.
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