Cause and effect What causes a friendship to break apart?
Friendship is one of the most important factors in people's life. In accordance with the quote 'Human beings are social animals' by Aristotle, no one can live without friends forever. Because friends are a part of one's life story as they spend many of the happy and sad moments together. For example, talking to friends cheer up people when they are depressed and, spending time or going on trips with friends sometimes make wonderful memories that people carry on with their whole lives. However from time to time, some friendships may break apart regardless of how much they were close in the past. And I believe that friendship may break when friends have different views or one of them forgets the value of their friend.
To begin with, though different points of views between friends may look easy to overcome by understanding each other it is actually the start of drifting apart. This especially applies to friends who have known each other from when they were young. People change in thoughts as they grow depending on the environment of where they live or who they meet. And the problem is that friends cannot walk through the same path continually such as living in the same area or going to same schools. Therefore, as they grow in unlike situations it is natural for them to develop different points of views whether it's about politics or life styles. Even though their efforts trying to understand, they will get into frequent argues which will eventually make each other exhausted. And after that, they wouldn't like to meet each other since they only get upset than having a fun time.
I can give an example of myself. I've known one of my best friends since I was 11 and we spent most of the time with each other until we went to high school. We went to the same elementary and middle school, and met almost on every weekend going to the movies or playing. Nonetheless, as we entered different high schools and made other friends, we started to think differently. As my new friends were pranksters, I became to play pranks often and favor convivial moods but my friend didn't like jokes and preferred quiet atmospheres. Therefore we became the exact opposite of each other despite all of the years we've been close, and fought about not respecting each other's preferences. So we naturally lost contact and our friendship broke apart. Like this friendship is most about understanding and having empathy, so it may be hard to continue the friendship between people who have different points of views.
Secondly, disrespecting their friends could cause the break in friendship. When people become too intimate with their friends, they may forget the value of their friends because they think that their best friends will always stand beside them whatever they do. Thus people do not treat friends politely like they did in the first time. In some cases, they may say things without thinking that it could hurt friends feelings. For example, even if they were trying to be honest and helpful, sayings like "You're clothes are horrible" or "What happened to your hair?" could upset people's emotional states. Besides the saying, disrespectful attitudes can also appear by behaviors like grumbling and irritating friends. There could be circumstances where friends have a clash of opinions in deciding things such as where to go or what to eat. Sometimes each of the member's opinion cannot be reflected. However even though people are disappointed about the decisions, they should occasionally hide their feelings and yield not to spoil the mood since they've gathered to have a good time. But there are some people who show they are annoyed directly by their face and by this, they make their friends walk on eggshells. It may be accepted by friends if this is only an occasional happening but if this occurs often, even best friends would get tired and leave their friends.
Friendship is what makes one's life richer by supporting people regardless of who and how they are. And I believe that friendship can go on if people only try to respect their friends and remembering not to lose preciousness of friends as being deceived by familiarity.
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