Why are we not a friend anymore?
A friend is easier lost than found. It is an American saying about friendship, which shows that it is easy to break up with friends. I agree with that saying and think that it is really sad thing to end a friendship. I will suggest the reasons why a friendship is easily broken. There are two types of the causes; external factors and internal factors.
External factors have an impact on ending friendships. First, one of the external factors is intervention of other people who aren't related to the relationship. For example, Amy's friend, Jane heard about the false story which Amy said something bad about her from her friend who is not Amy's friend. Jane got angry about it, so she ignored whatever Amy said and ended friendship with her. Like this, others can cause to break apart friendship. Second, When we don't meet our friends for a long time because of individual situations, our friendship can increasingly get weak and be finally ended. I have once heard the saying, Go often to the house of thy friend; for weeds soon choke up the unused path. It means the less we meet our friends, the more hard to meet our friends. For example, if I take different classes from my friends in a university, study abroad, or get too busy for my work, then my friends and I will have much less time to get together then before. In this situation, there is not any serious problem with each other, but it causes to weaken friendship. So, my friends and I get hard to meet each other.
Also, there are some internal factors to cause to break the relationship. Firstly, lack of trust is one of the main reasons to end a friendship. If we don't trust our friends, we will not think our friends as true friends and have doubt on our friendship. Also we may be more affected by external factors that I mentioned firstly and then, of course, we cannot keep our friendship. Secondly, different views can be one of the reasons for the sad ending. In my experience, I have once ended a friendship because of it. My friend lied her friend for hiding her fault, so she was really depressed and counseled about that matter with me. I said honestly that it was your fault, so you have to reveal what you lied. But, my honesty hurt my friend's mind. She said to me that she wanted for me to give comfort not criticism to her and she was disappointed with my aggressive attitude. I wanted to help her by giving advice, but it just made her angry. For that opposite view, our friendship got to be weak and was finally broken. If we and our friends have completely different thoughts about same matters, it will be likely to fight with friends and maybe end a friendship.
The reasons why a friendship is broken are divided into external factors and internal factors. External factors are intervention of others and unfrequent meeting with friends. And internal factors are not to trust friends and different views. We are living in the complex society, where interpersonal relationship is really important. So, we have to keep in mind preciousness of friendship and prevent those bad endings.
Hi, I'm sangwon from p&p class. I think it is pretty well organized essay. So, I can easily understand your writing about the two factors which affects us in friendship. But, I feel that repitition is in your essay. Especially, when I read these sentences : "~ external factors and internal factors.
ReplyDeleteExternal factors have an impact on ending friendships. First, one of the external factors ~" I stronly feel that the repetition of the same word is in that. If you replace the word like external, factor for avoiding repitition, your writing would be more great. Anyway, your essay was pretty impressive. And thank you for sharing your good one.